Posts Tagged ‘Tapping’
I’m going to miss you – EFT, Hugs and Tears
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I just concluded my first long-term supply in a local elementary school after graduating with my Education Degree. During this time I had a student that suffered from anxiety. Since I used EFT throughout by university years to reduce my own stress and anxiety, it seemed quite natural to me to want to give the benefit of EFT to my students as well. As a result of seeing Mary Stafford’s “EFT Shortcut for Children” and owning a Tappy Bear myself, doing so was quite easy. I just brought Tappy Bear into my class and did regular tapping with my students, which I called the silly dance. The silly dance was using Mary’s simple points and doing it in a fun and entertaining way. We used the silly dance before our Friday Tests and when I just felt that some of the students needed to have the benefit of tapping.
In my class, there was a student that suffered from severe anxiety. She participated in our regular class tapping and I even sent home a package to her mom about the benefits of EFT and how it can be used in so many ways. I am not sure if it was used at home but there was a noticeable difference in her anxiety levels . Until…
During the last two weeks she appeared to be really anxious and cried a lot. No one really understood why, but on the last day of school she told me she was really upset about me leaving. So right there as she hugged me, I gently tapped on the top of her head as she sobbed and told me that she was going to miss me. We tapped and did a few breathing exercises while she was totally in her sad feelings. In a very few minutes (it did feel like forever though) she told me she felt much better and was still a little sad but she knew that everything was going to be okay.
We cried together! During our sobbing, I told her that crying was sometimes a good thing and this is one of those times. She agreed!
I still spend a few minutes each day tapping her in my own mind. I believe its good for her and I know its good for me.
MKW
First Year Elementary School Teacher
From being “scared to death of math” to an A in Algebra
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I am a 36 year old mother of two who has decided to go back to school. One of the first classes I signed up to take was college algebra. I was terrified!! I hadn’t done math in almost 20 years and even back then, math was my worst subject. I really thought I just couldn’t do it … that my brain just didn’t work that way. Every day that I had to go to class, my heart would pound, my hands would shake … I was literally scared to death, even though I knew it was silly – that it was only a math class. I knew that I was going to fail horribly and embarrass myself in front of a room full of 18 year olds!
Then it occurred to me to try tapping! Tapping had worked on so many other things for me, both big and small, so I thought why not? It can’t hurt! I sat in the parking lot before class and I would tap:
Even though I feel stupid and can’t do math…
Even though my brain totally shuts down the minute I see the numbers on the page, I choose to know I have everything I need to succeed.
Even though I have never been able to do math and never will…
Even though I’m a girl and everyone knows girls can’t do math, I choose to know that I am fully capable.
It was really eye-opening! As always with tapping, I realized that my blocks had very little to do with math and almost everything to do with my own limiting beliefs.
GC COMMENT: For an even deeper resolution, I would suggest going back to specific events during her earlier school years where she had feelings of failure, humiliation, etc. Doing so, may collapse more limiting beliefs and other issues besides the math response.
Needless to say, I got a 90% on the final – only two people in the whole class got an A on the final and I was one of them! I ended up with an overall A in ALGEBRA and now I’ve moved on to Statistics and am doing great!! It is truly a miracle … what did I ever do before tapping??
Thanks again,
Jennifer Todd
Taken from www.emofree.com
Enhancing Sports Performance: Basketball Team and A High School Gymnast
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By Brent Thomson, PhD
I recently worked with the entire Red Wing High School Girls Basketball team (in Minnesota), using EFT to improve team performance. I met with the team for a two-hour session. At that time their record was 5 games below the 500 mark.
Historically, the girls team has struggled, usually winning anywhere from 3 to 5 games in a year. We talked about the major problems with the team members and the coaching staff, and came up with the following hit list that needed to be chopped down:
Poor free throw shooting;
poor jump shooting;
poor use of the clock;
losing focus and concentration;
poor passing;
fear of making mistakes;
consistently playing below ability level;
easily intimidated by the other team; and
easily affected by crowd noise.
We put each of these in the familiar Even though format and proceeded to tap on each one. We did three or four rounds on each issue and then talked about other issues that surfaced. What I found by doing this is that individual issues started to surface for each of the players and we were then able to isolate those and tap them down on an individual basis.
GC COMMENT: Getting to individual issues like this often spells the difference between good results and spectacular results. All athletes have their individualized beliefs, idiosyncracies and other barriers to achieving their full potential.
BRENT CONTINUES: I also found that the team really enjoyed doing the tapping as a team. A number of the players and the coaches noted a general sense of purpose, and a positive sense of team unity was a side effect of the group tapping.
Again, we kept track of the statistics as a team in terms of free throw percentage as a team before tapping, and again after tapping. Also, we kept records in terms of shooting percentages, both before tapping and after tapping.
Overall, the team has improved 87% in free throw shooting percentage since tapping. Before tapping, they were making a dismal 40 out of 100 as a team. Since applying EFT the team has played 8 games and in that 8 games they skyrocketed to a team average of 75 out of 100.
Overall shooting averages for the 8 games previous to tapping was 37 out of 100. Shooting percentage in the last 8 games since the EFT session is now 54 out of 100. Thats a 46% improvement.
Most telling, their record in the last 8 games is 6 wins with only 2 losses. One of the losses was by 3 points to a team ranked in the top five in the State of Minnesota. Earlier in the year, they were blown out by over 30 points.
Both the coaching staff and the players attribute the improvement in their performance to the addition of EFT into their training procedures. I am convinced that EFT has a significant place in training individual athletes and teams so that they can maximize their physical abilities and play with greater stamina, speed, strength, and co-ordination.
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I also had the opportunity to work with, Katie Auge, the captain of her High School Gymnastic’s team in Red Wing, Minnesota (where I live). She has been struggling this year with a nagging ankle injury and has been receiving physical therapy on an ongoing basis. This has significantly affected her scoring all year as well as her overall confidence throughout the year.
Katie is a senior and her wish is to make the state gymnastics meet in the All Around Competition. Her dad called me to ask if I would work with her. I had previously worked with her last year (Junior year) on three occasions, and she really enjoyed EFT. She had never made the state tournament previously.
I met her for one session the day of the regional meet that was to decide whether or not she would go on to the State Competition. We tapped on the following:
Even though Im afraid of falling and hurting myself on the vault;
Even though Im worried about my ankle holding up in the competition today;
Even though I have all this anxiety about performing well in front of friends and family (the meet was held at her High School in Red Wing);
Even though I have this fear of failure; and
Even though I have fears about sticking the landing on the vault.
The session was 90 minutes long. We were able to get all the aforementioned targets down to 0 (on a 0-10 intensity scale). In addition, we worked on planting an effective choice statement that would empower Katie to do her best. We decided on the following:
I choose to see myself performing in a graceful, relaxed, confident, and powerful manner in all my events today.
Katie was able to visualize this belief at a 9 level after tapping on this over a period of four rounds.
Well, Gary is always looking for statistics to indicate proof that EFT works, and I have some. I received a call on Saturday morning from a very excited Katie and her father saying she nailed the vault, and qualified for her first state competition in the All Around Competition category.
Katie says that there is no doubt that the EFT was the strategy that put her over the top. In addition, she said that her ankle did not bother her at all during the meet, and that her confidence was consistently high. She attributes this to the EFT work we did on the day of the regional meet. Think what we could have accomplished if we could have had a little more training time?
Sincerely,
Brent Thomson, Ph.D., L.P. drrelaxation@hotmail.com
Clinic Director Lifestyle Health Services
Bloomington, MN
from www.emofree.com
EFT assists high school track athlete to win 3 gold medals
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EFT assists high school track athlete to win 3 gold medals.
By Peter Guare
I’m a Personal Performance Coach making the transition from a Head Track Coach. Although I no longer get paid, I still help out with the program. Mike Tamul is a wonderful young man and one of the nicest I’ve ever worked with. I was working with him and some other hurdlers and showed them how to improve their flexibility (a must for hurdlers).
We used the “Even though I have this tension in my back and legs” setup phrase and then tapped on “tension in the muscles” “tension in the joints” “tension in the fascia” “tension in the ligaments” etc. When everyone improved markedly, they became converts. But Mike really heeded my advice to use it for everything, from making his trail leg faster in the hurdles to reducing pain and fatigue in the 1500 meters, an event in the pentathlon. I’ll let him tell the rest of the story.
“My senior year is where I really began to excel. Mr. Guare went out of his way to help me, and that he sure did accomplish. He taught me his tapping technique that could be used anywhere at anytime, and could really help you not only in Track, but in many areas of life.
This technique brought a new level of focus to me and increased my flexibility quickly. After only a week or two of using this technique, I found myself at an Invitational sporting ugly weather. Before all of my races, I used the tapping technique, and I focused on winning. That meet I accomplished something I had never done before, I won three gold medals. All the while Mr. Guare also helped me tremendously with my hurdle form.
I became a Sectional Champion in the 110 Meter High Hurdles with the help of Mr. Guare. The whole season we had actually been training Hurdles for the Pentathlon that I would hope to compete in at the NYS Championship meet. Mr. Guare helped me so much with hurdles that it improved my time enough to add enough points to my Pentathlon score to break the School record for the pentathlon.
My score allowed me to compete at the state meet, and I placed 5th at States in the Pentathlon and couldn’t have done it without Mr. Guare. The thing is, all the while I was using the tapping and steadily improving. Mr. Guare’s techniques helped me gain a winning mentality. I was eventually able to use the tapping technique mentally during my 1500 race in the pentathlon and I was more relaxed and focused than ever, beating my PR from the previous year by 17 seconds.
Thank you so much Mr. Guare for turning a good High School experience into the most treasured time in my entire life.”
Sincerely,
Mike Tamul
Taken from www.emofree.com
Pet grief, school (math) performance & cursing/anger.
Author: admin
Dear Gary:
1. I have a wonderful example of EFT with my granddaughter, Miah, who is 9-3/4 years. She will be ten in February. Miah’s father, my son, bought Miah a thoroughbred, Golden Retriever pup, 7 weeks old. On Tuesday night, just before Thanksgiving, they went together to pick up the dog. Miah has had between eight and ten dogs in her life time.
Each dog, the parents let something happen to it, either the dog “ran” away or they had to give them up for some reason. Miah lives with her Mom and at her house, she cannot have a dog of her own. So my son gives her a dog knowing he actually had no real place to keep it.
On Thanksgiving morning, my son called and said the dog was ill and in the hospital with some disease that pups get. Miah was traumatized, crying and feeling very sad. Her upset was very upsetting to me as well. I hugged her up and told her I was sorry and watched her cry. Then I thought about, EFT. I asked her how she was feeling, she said “just very afraid, my dog might die.” I asked her how afraid did she think she was feeling on a scale from one to ten. After explaining that, she said a ten. I explained EFT to her and asked if she wanted to do it to lessen her upset and fear about her dog dying. Her answer was yes. So the tapping began.
We tapped for: “Even though I have fear about my dog dying, I deeply and completely accept myself.” She started at a ten. The first round bought her to a five, second round to a two and at this point her tears had stopped and she said, “Grandma, I am not so afraid anymore.” I asked her if she wanted to be afraid at all. She said no, so we tapped another round. This time she got to a zero. She said, “Grandma, I am not afraid anymore.”
Although I do this with client, I still had surprise that again, EFT had worked so thoroughly with Miah. This is such an incredible tool.
2. I am also working with an eleven year old who cuts my grass. He was having problems doing math and had received an F in that class. He said he was angry because the kids called him names and made fun of him. He thought he knew how to do it, he said he felt afraid and scared. His school is down the street from me.
He started out at a ten with “Even though I feel angry about math, I deeply and completely accept myself.” He went to a three and then to a zero. I added some BSFF to this case and he choose a “secret word” Fearless. So we decided that every time he rounded the corner and saw my house, he would start saying his “cue” word, fearless. When he saw the school, he would say fearless and when he saw the kids at school who teased him. Definitely when it was time to do math and of course when he went to the board in front of the class.
His mother called me and told me that whatever I had “done to him” keep doing it because his entire attitude had changed and he was coming home doing his homework all by himself. When he came over, he also told me he was doing much better.
Yesterday, his mother came by my house and told me she had just left his teacher. The teacher told her, her son was doing so much better in class. She was wondering what had happened to him. His attitude was different and everyday, when it is time to do math, he starts doing something with his fingers. He told her he was working with “this lady” and this was helping him do better in math. The teacher then told him he needed to see his mother. It was good news.
His mother says she will bring his progress report by for me to see. After I see it on paper that he is improving, I am going to see his teacher and then the Principal at the school to start a small group of boys (4 to 6 boys) and see if this can happen on a larger scale. There is no telling where this will lead.
Thanks again. His mother even thanks you.
3. The third child, I worked EFT with was an unknown boy in the park who was cursing like a sailor to all the other children. I thought he had Tourettes Syndrome. Every sentence he spoke had a curse word in it although they were only playing. I waited until he was ready to leave when I call him and asked his name. He told me and I told him I noticed something very interesting about him. He asked what. I told him that I noticed that he was really a “good” curser. That he was the best curser I had ever heard before for a child his age. I told him that although I was impressed, I was also a little concerned because “usually” cursing meant that someone was a little angry.
I asked if he was angry. He told me YEA, he was angry with everybody. He said all the people. When I questioned him further about this, he said that people “hit” him. Now I knew I only had a few minutes with him and I did not question who hit him. I asked if he liked the way he felt when he felt so angry. He said no, not all the time. I asked if he would like to learn how to only be angry when he wanted to and not all the time. He said yes.
So to make this quick, I told him to tell me just how angry he was on a scale from one to ten. He said he was a ten (in a loud voice). I told him what we were going to do and asked again if he would like to do this. He said yes. So we began to tap for: “Even though I feel real angry, I deeply and completely accept myself.” He went from a ten to a five and to a two. I asked him if he would to not be angry at all and he told me he wanted to be angry “a little.” He then looked up and saw his bus coming. He told me he had to leave and catch his bus. From this angry kid that I didn’t even know, I got some smiles at what a great curser he was. He did talk to me briefly about having a “bunch” of names and he didn’t really know his last name or he never really said it. He said his father had a lot of names too. A parent in the park told me that she was afraid to say anything to the kids (he was eleven) and thought that I was out of my mind for doing so.
I know that had I had the time to work with this child, more couldn’t have happened. I generally never think I want to work with children, however, EFT is fun and I really enjoy teaching them how to do it.
Thanks again and again.
Linda Compton
taken from www.emofree.com
